This image is a bit blurry—but it’s all good, really. This man makes me happy in the most obscure ways. You know how you fall in love, over and over? A smile across a room, or a tender gesture… or maybe the most mundane thing on the planet, but thoughtful none-the-less, like say walking your dog for you when you’re sick. And then thumpity, thumpity goes your heart, all over again.
This man’s hands make my heart go thumpity, thumpity. He also has a great phone voice, but you’ll just have to take my word for that.
At the moment, I’m sitting in his office watching him move too and fro in the kitchen, making dinner. I’m sipping Chianti (without a fava bean in sight, you’ll be happy to know!), listening to the Silversun Pickups, and writing to you about my thumpity, thumpity heart.
When we first got married, all the old hands at marriage took great pains to impress upon us the malleability of love. “You won’t always feel this way,” sounded like a sentence being passed, not an admonition for the future.
So, what of it, really? They meant well, I’m sure. But honestly, telling newlyweds that love will change is about as tactless as telling a very pregnant woman that childbirth is a harrowing experience. It might be. But it might be MORE than that, too! I suspect, like childbirth, real love is just that: MORE. More than the paltry definitions we assign to it. It is without words. It is without scope. It is beyond our ability to define, we have only to embrace it. Maybe to fall haplessly, selflessly into its grasp.
And to notice it when we see it.
Has our love changed in 18 years? Yes. But then, he does something that makes me happy in the most obscure way, and my heart goes thumpity, thumpity once again.
It’s never all or nothing. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
____________________________________________
Tomorrow’s post will be password protected. I’m sending out a BCC email with the code to all of my regular readers. If you don’t receive an email with the code by tomorrow morning, drop me a line—I’m sure I just overlooked your address. You’ll pardon my paranoia, but this is at the request of my beloved spouse. And seriously, I can’t deny a man who makes my heart go thumpity, thump!
Those of us who have had the pleasure of indulging in what those hands of his can do in the kitchen understand, if only a little why your heart goes thumpity thump just watching him at work. His creations are heart stopping I must admit, just look at the mochas he makes. He is a blessing but then he is also blessed to have you to love. Have a great day.
Mom
________________________________________
He is a very good cook—and I hold him directly responsible for all my weight gain through the years. *snort* ~W
Indeed I am blessed to have you to love and my heart goes thumpty thump whenever you are near. Valentine’s Day is such a celebration for me… I mean how many people get to share it with the love of their life?
________________________________________
Oh geeze, that reminds me… Valentine’s day. Hee… I love you too! ~W
I’m a newlywed but I’ve never had anyone tell me, “you won’t always feel this way.” I’m glad I read this, though, for future reference. ;D
P.S. Who’d have ever thought I’d comment twice in one week?
________________________________________
I KNOW! And on back-to-back posts, too. Blessings on your new marriage, Rachel!! ~W
I love your “love” blogs… they make me smile 😀
________________________________________
Oh, good. But you’re smiling for all sorts of reasons these days, aren’t you! ~W
I await my password with bated breath.
________________________________________
Sent! Now you can exhale… you’re looking a little blue. 😀 ~W
Posts like this give hope to the rest of us 🙂 Here’s to many more thumpity thump moments in your future.
________________________________________
Here’s to some thumpity thump moments in YOUR future. 😀 ~W
Awww – you two ;P
________________________________________
I know, get a room. 😀 ~W
Oh I wish I had the password. This is all jus so precious!
________________________________________
Thank you! ~W
Oh, I want the word! His hands are lovely; his cuffs and jacket (?) interest me.
It makes me happy to read that you are so in love- both for you specifically and also for those of us snuffling at large. How’s the cold?
My new sewing machine is a Brother- but that embroidery machine looks complicated to me. Show us some (straight) pictures of you, it and product please.
________________________________________
The word is GREASE. Ha ha ha ha. I know, I’m the only one laughing, except for maybe Cap, if she reads this. 😀 He is wearing his jacket—this photo was taken a few weeks ago at a dear friend’s house. They have an annual lantern parade, where we all meet to walk in the darkness with our lanterns sending out our good will for the world. Anyhow, we all gather and munch first, but none of us took off our coats because we were all headed outside in the SNOW. 😀 ~W
I will post photos of the boy and his new machine just as soon as it arrives. I make no promises tho, about the camera angle. 😀 ~W
Amen.
I wish people would spend more time in pre-preg / pre-martial classes talking about how to keep the good as opposed to dealing with the bad. You sure would start off less scared, I think!
________________________________________
Oh, you know… you’re so right about this! People say the same sorts of things to people about to have their first baby. And yeah, things will be different with a kiddo around. SO??? We really should spend more time helping people see how to maintain and enrich their relationships instead of warning them of impending doom. Like a baby is a bad thing. Yes, romance is different, but that doesn’t mean you can’t get creative. Sheesh. Ok, I’m ranting. Needless to say, I’m RIGHT THERE WITH YOU.
We’re going to have lots to talk about in our adjoining padded rooms, aren’t we. 😀 ~~W
yes!
beautiful.
my heart melts more than the thumpity, thump.
i love that sensation.
________________________________________
Oh, the melty thing is good too! 😀 ~W
I’ve always thought that, yes, my love for my husband has changed. But it has changed for the better. I’ve grown to love him more and more each day for the man and father he is morphing into.
Thanks for this wonderful post on your IZ. Thanks for sharing these tender moments with us!
________________________________________
Oh, you’re so welcome. And I agree… change can be really good. 😀 ~W
hey…just wondering…and totally fine if you don’t want to answer, but did you and Iz live together before you guys got married? if you don’t want to discuss it here, just feel free to use that email that you sent the PASSWORD to ;P
________________________________________
I sent you the password, now I’m sending you email. In a word, though, No. 😀 ~W
Oh, how beautiful! I love that you’re taking the time to really SEE all the little moments in between that make your heart beat that way! I was reminded of that myself this weekend out hiking…a little something that came to me and took my breath away.
______________________________________
It’s about those moments, isn’t it. ~W
He does have a great phone voice, and yes, love does change. I prefer to say that it MATURES.
______________________________________
I forget you’ve talked with him on the phone. 😀 ~W
Grease is the word, have you heard, have you heard …
That song is in my head now. Thanks for that.
______________________________________
Oh, goody, you did read the comment. You’re so welcome. Any time. 😀 ~W
ROFLOL!!! Grease is the word… Oh my.
Did I just say you had GREAT musical taste so similar to mine??? oh dear…
________________________________________________
I still have great taste… it was just too easy of a door to walk through. And as you recognized the reference… Ahem. 😀 ~W
Ain’t love grand? It’s a wonderful thing to still be inlove with your other half!
Have I told you my news yet? (14 weeks pregnant with bubs #4! )
_________________________________________
Congratulations, Carly! That’s wonderful news. 😀 ~W
Hi Wende! I am a regular reader, but haven’t commented before, so am not on your email list… would love to have the password to read your newest post! Thanks!
_________________________________________
Thanks for the lovely link to your artwork. I’m so impressed with your paintings! Lovely!! ~W
Love is wonderful. TJ and I have been together for over 23 years and I still look at him and WANT HIM! 🙂 I still think he’s the cutest guy around. I still feel tingly when he looks at me a certain way or says just the right thing. It’s cool to have the right guy who you can fall in different love with every day. 🙂 Hey, send me an email. I didn’t get one. 🙂
_________________________________________
Sounds like you two are a terrific match! ~W
I love to read all about your life and especially enjoy the Sunday Sermons. You have a beautiful way with words. Thank you for sharing, it’s been inspiring. I’ve never posted so I don’t have the password to your recent post. If it’s o.k. and if you are comfortable, would you include me in too? Have a love-filled day!
_____________________________________________
Thank you so much for your lovely words. I do appreciate them. As well, your email was wonderful. It’s nice to know who’s reading! ~W