Comments on: Itchy

By: Michelle

Michelle — Sun, 15 Oct 2006 02:50:42 +0000

I can relate to itchy. My older child is not itchy at all. He is what keeps me even slightly grounded, having flat out told me that he does not enjoy moving. Sage is more adventurous, but he is making friends here, enjoys his school. I have to put Benedryl on the itch. It doesn’t work. I spend hours surfing the net looking at different towns, fantasizing.

Community helps, but even it doesn’t keep me anchored. Perhaps we need even more of it. I wish I was part of a huge extended family that had barbeques at the park every weekend.

By: HG

HG — Fri, 13 Oct 2006 11:24:00 +0000

Actually we hope to leave Philly in about 2 years. (We’re in the Northeast section of the city now). Most likely we’ll head to the Poconos, Lancaster, or if we win the lottery New England Although the VA Beach area was nice…

I’m perpetually in grass is greener syndrome. When we moved into our hour 4 years ago, we knew it was a temp situation - we simply couldn’t afford to move out of the city (any Philly suburb worth anything is priced WAY out of our ability on one income). I’ve been itching for “what’s next” since we moved in.

By: Princess' Mom

Princess' Mom — Fri, 13 Oct 2006 03:34:42 +0000

Okay. Tom says I should let you off the hook. That we completely know what you’re talking about and have the “should we move?” conversation about once a week.

I told Tom you still associate me with that woman in the ski jacket and for that reason, you’ll never recover.

By: kathryn

kathryn — Fri, 13 Oct 2006 03:21:14 +0000

yeah, this is when i completely re-arrange the furnature and find a new coffee shop. i think i’m already itchy here. then again, maybe it’s because i have no friends myself. or maybe because the closest target is an hour away. ah, well.

By: Margaret

Margaret — Fri, 13 Oct 2006 01:24:26 +0000

I have the opposite of the itch; I dig in. I don’t know what is more difficult to deal with—the desire for a change, just for the sake of change, or the compulsion to NOT face too many(or any) new things. I live in the town I grew up in, 5 minutes from my old house. I teach in the high school I graduated from. And we are happy here; our kids requested to stay in this district when we had to move out of our much smaller house 10 years ago.

By: IZ

IZ — Fri, 13 Oct 2006 00:52:02 +0000

Yeah, let me second that. Grass is greener syndrome. Really, it isn’t about not being grateful for what we have. It isn’t even about wanting more. For me it is a recognition that our community life is very thin here and now. The only way for things to change is to understand objective reality and then make choices that support a desired outcome.

By: wende

wende — Fri, 13 Oct 2006 00:39:19 +0000

HG—You’re relentless. Where in Philly???

Bug:—It’s an addiction, I think. It’s not the process but the product I like. Maybe I saw too many Army commercials as a kid: SEE THE WORLD.

By: wende

wende — Fri, 13 Oct 2006 00:37:55 +0000

You are right, Carrie–it isn’t about you. I didn’t say I didn’t have any friends. I said I hadn’t formed a real community yet. I’ve not had the time to invest in people or organizations beyond surfacey stuff. That takes time and not being over scheduled as I find myself now. The lack of feeling connected, on a deeper level, makes my itchy feelings very pronounced. Doesn’t mean I will move, doesn’t mean I won’t work to become invested. It just means acknowledging where I am, right now. And hopefully, finding some support in the process.

By: Bug

Bug — Fri, 13 Oct 2006 00:36:49 +0000

Oh I know what you’re talking about! I still get that way even though I’m sick of the actual process of moving…I just like the “new life” feeling. *goes and sits near boxes in the garage* LOL!

By: Princess' Mom

Princess' Mom — Fri, 13 Oct 2006 00:32:41 +0000

HELLO! Mr. and Mrs. Chopped Liver and their three Liverettes checking in here.

I’d leave a LONGER message but I have to go watch the Dr. Phil episode, “Why do I always think I have friends but they don’t feel the same way?” Dr. Phil is going to tell them, “It ain’t about you!”

After that, there’s a great Oprah on, “Forming inappropriate attachments to the blatantly unrooted.”

However, I do plan on bonding with that dog of yours. SHE’LL love us!